I recently read a devotion that put a name to a phenomenon I’ve experienced at least several times in my life. The article was titled “Turning to God for Comfort When You’re Ghosted” by Sarah Geringer.
She refers to Merriam Webster’s definition of ghosting as “the act or practice of abruptly cutting off all contact with someone … usually without explanation.”
I was somewhat relieved to know it had a NAME. And I’m sorry it’s happened to others, but in a way I’m glad I’m not the only one. In her article, Sarah mentions that “This wasn’t just any friendship — it was one of my best ones ever.”
I could say that this has happened to me twice with two such precious friendships. After no contact for at least two years, I received a message that my friend was in the hospital having a heart attack. I didn’t hesitate. I flew out of an inservice meeting at the bus garage and hightailed it down to Jonesboro. Long story short, the period of ghosting was over. Isn’t it strange that what was so painful while it was going on, was erased by the fact that we were communicating again. She tried to explain that period, but to be honest, I don’t remember the why. I was just thankful.
As I write this, I’m experiencing this again. What I found helpful and wanted to share, are Sarah’s tips for coping with this sad time in our lives. These are all her words, not mine.
Go to God in prayer.
Admit you feel overwhelmed.
Pour out all your feelings.
Reflect on your relationship.
Give your burdens to God.
If you are being ghosted, I urge you to read her entire article on her Facebook page: Sarah Geringer Creates.